First, let’s define this word:
verb
alter (something) from its original course, meaning, or state to a distortion or corruption of what was first intended. "he was charged with conspiring to pervert the course of justice"
lead (someone) away from what is considered right, natural, or acceptable."Hector is a man who is simply perverted by his time"
noun
/ˈpərvərt/
a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.
According to the Oxford dictionary definition, to pervert something is to alter it from its original course or how it was originally intended. So there must be an “original course” or “original intent” for perversion to deviate from. Perversion can only happen in relationship of its original intent, so what if these original intents were different? Would one cease to be a pervert? Or would wholesomeness as we know it become perverse?
Some things are absolute, but perverts are not one of them. As defined, a pervert is a person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable. So for the idea of abnormal to exist, there has to be a normal. Usually society at large gets to decide what is normal. If we lived in a society where clothing covered everything EXCEPT genitals, then it would not be considered perverted to go around flashing one’s genitals under a trench coat. In the context of the BDSM world, where most twists, bends, and subversions are par for the course, how does a pervert find satisfaction?
As a lifetime pervert, the Femdom Farm is a place of wholesomeness and it is now a place where I can wholistically pervert to my liking. Amish Ice locker? Let’s turn it into a kill room!
Having abnormal sexual behaviors is also a part of being a pervert. Let’s look at some “normal” sexual behaviors first:
sex solely for procreation
missionary position
penis in vagina
So beyond that, is everything else perverted sex?
Oral? Anal? Toys? Sex for pleasure? See, this is why kink is so much more interesting! Because basically everything that falls outside of “normal sexual behavior” is considered a kink! Oftentimes, being a pervert means to chase the ever shifting goalpost of what is “socially acceptable” just to transgress it. But this is where the grey areas of morality become confusing for some.
As a pervert, I still uphold what feels right and wrong in my heart. While I may cross some lines of what society at large believe is right and wrong, I would say that my heart-centered barometer of humanity is fully functional and that consent, safety, and sanity are prominent principles that I adhere to as a pervert.